Last time I saw my mother she asked me when are we planning to have another baby. I answered flippantly, "never".
But I guess she didn't hear me. She proceeded to tell me that I need to have four more kids! So I can give one to my eldest brother (who is still single), another one to my second older brother (married but not yet blessed with a baby). And the other two I can keep together with EJ.
My mother is funny that way.
Lately some people have also been asking me the same question as my mom. And I always tell them EJ is the last one. It never fails to elicit some disappointment. "Sayang, you have good genes. Make use of that". Oh, is that a prerequisite?
Honestly, I am not sure whether I want to have another baby or not.
When people hear this, they think it is tantamount to saying I don't want to have another baby again.
I maybe just paranoid but whenever I say we may not want to have another baby again, people think I am just being selfish.
Nobody said Motherhood is easy. I have my fair share of difficulties even from the start. My first trimester was a little tough. The labor was quick but very painful. The sleepless nights during the first few months EJ was born were maddening and of course there was post partum depression I had to overcome later on.
I confess, these diffulties are still fresh from my memory. But would I go through it again to have my baby? Without a doubt, yes. Am I willing to go through it again to have another baby? Yes.
So why are we still thinking if we want another baby or not?
It is a combination of a lot of things actually.
Or maybe we are not ready physically, emotionally and financially to have a second baby. It is a fact that having a baby is financially challenging. To put it simply it is expensive, from birth, no make it from the pregnancy of the mother until the baby finishes college.
If we want to make sure our baby(ies) has/have the best future is being selfish, then so be it.
But in my opinion, people who have a lot of babies/kids more than they can afford to feed, send to school and even love are the most selfish parents ever.
5 comments:
you do the right thing. One is enough.
Now if they want four from you, they do it themselves, feed them , themselves.
Ow, it s a lot or respnsibilities!
what do they think of babies, dolls???!!!!
silly ideas.Sila na lang gawa no!
Korek ka dyan neng! Its really your prerogative....eh ako nga, mas selfish kasi hanggang ngayon ayaw mag anak! hihihihi
I can truly relate. I get that kind of question a lot. I'm happy with Yohan and I think a child is already a great blessing. My hubby and I are happy the way things are and not yet ready for another child. Some even assume I'm having a hard time conceiving again which is not true. It's just a conscious decision in our part that's why I respect your own reasons.
Ate fran - korek, sila nalang talaga gumawa. sa panganganak palang hirap na kaya!:D
Maderla - Ur not selfish. just making sure everything will be great once u decide u want to be a mom :))
rachel - honestly it's a little irritating when people tell me to have another child. as if it is that easy, no?
In my opinion, it's not being selfish to have 1 child...
Nowadays, it's important on how to maintain a healthy lifestyle like yours for a long time and having a healthy and smart child like EJ is already a blessing from the Lord..
Congrats, for having the smartes decision. I personally admire you the way you handle your life being a mother, a wife, and most specially being one of my closest friend.
May God Bless your family always.
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