Questions have been answered. But a decision is still hard to come by.
I've been glued to my laptop every night, looking for anything that can help us make the big decision. If anything it just made us more confused.
Here's more. The NZ employer is going to give us relocation allowance, an airfare for hubby and has added another benefit: parking allowance. Great news. But hubby is now positive that his contract here in KL will be renewed after the present one expires. Talk about being tormented.
The lure of free education for EJ and medical benefits make us want to fly to NZ right away. But there's this nagging thought "what if hubby will still continue to receive an endless stream of offers or what if we'll hit it big if we go into business in Philippines?"
Should we trade a life of unknown to a life of certainty? Can we still afford to risk our future? I know it sounds melodramatic. It probably is. But when you want a better future for your kid, you'd want to make it right in just one try. Or is that being too perfectionist?
This decision making just overwhelms me. I am asking for signs from the one up there.
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5 comments:
I knw this is one tough decision to make... just some opinion:
- it is a major leap of family life it terms of adjusting to culture,climate,food,etc.
-for how long? don't commit urselves too long or u'll be having a hard time breaching the contract if in case life isn't what u expected.
- On the otherhand, going back to pinas and start a business is not a bad idea but, it's gonna be full of challenges... Once you started it, you have to commit urself into it, otherwise,leaving it to somebody else even you most trusted person usually doesnt work as far as my experience is concern if in case you decide to be with hubby again.
There might still be more offers to come, more tempting! he he he... dont rush things up... I suggest, have a break thinking about it for a few days, and if it still sounds tempting after a few weeks of weight things out, go for it!
Hi Grace. It is a big decision for our family. So many things to consider. The offer in NZ is permanent. If we don't like it there, we can always go back. But the question is will hubby still have offers like he has now?
It's so funny, he still got another offer just this week. The offers are pouring. It's making our life difficult..Hahaha. Ang kulit no?
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Thanks for leaving a message on my blog. Of course I hope you have read more up to date posts than the one you left a comment on as that was over a year ago when I posted that!
I have been reading through your posts and feel for you. Seems you have some tough decisions to make. I am still trying to catch up as to why you are moving but I am sure its in here somewhere.
If there is anything we can do to help please let us know. Best wishes and good luck to you :-)
hi josiet,
promise i'll be serious this time. if i were in your shoes i would:
stay back in malaysia. i am not biased coz i live here. but the fact that your hubby's salary is double here than in NZ. you can save more if you stay here...
and the fact that offers just keep pouring, i'm sure there will be more offers to come... in the future.
and the fact that Malaysia is very good in their media censorship, i would rather have my kids grow up here.
and the fact that hubby's contract is renewable, all the more i would want to stay here longer.
well... living in Malaysia is not all that bed of roses, I know... like getting a maid and all that... but there are more good than bad, I guess.
i am speaking on behalf of Malaysia...
now let me speak in behalf of the Philippines. business in Philippines nowadays is not very promising as it's GMA's last term already. I'm sorry I can't expnad this. I just heard this one from an economist. Investment is not good this time.
i can't speak up for NZ though... sorry. I'm all out for Malaysia.
That's it if I were in your shoes. But of course, the most important is when you make the decision, you would know it's the right thing because you feel peaceful with it. PEACE is the keyword. And the best of all, your HEART. Your heart will lead you to a good decision... we can just use our logic... but at the end of the day, the best decision is the decision that comes from the heart.
sorry... it looks like i am writing a full post here. just thinking with you about your dilemma.
What if you spend a holiday in NZ for a couple of weeks and have a "feel" or see for yourself what you are getting in to? As I can see it, you can afford a holiday in another foreign land. Reading other people's blog or other success stories in nz may not be applicable to your family or vice versa. Like what you've said, living in Malaysia is just temporary. If his contract finishes, that's it. Or they just renew it. Yes now, they have renewed it. What if suddenly they tell your husband, that's it! You're finishing on this day. What's next? Although as you've mentioned, the NZ offer is a lot lower compared to what he is currently receiving, but in NZ, you can apply for citizenship after a given number of years. Look at it at a long term basis... your child's future. Good luck!
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